Loneliness something to be feared or embraced
Many of us this Gentleman included are terrified of being left without a significant other. However this fear can drive us to align our selves to those that can be detrimental to us. Having been unattached for the past ten years or so I have lived as an observer. Many times the term "third wheel" has been attached to this out spoken observer.
What I have learned from being alone is very simple first of all jealousy very quickly sets in and is hard to combat.
The question that this traveller seeks to set out is this...Is it better to go through live going from relationship to relationship, or is it better to learn how to live with oneself first?
The very reason why I have chosen to pose this question is that I am sure many of you have seen, close and dear friends and family members go through relationships which have been unhealthy for them. The desire for a close emotional and physical relationship can at times be overwhelming, leading us to become over involved in the other persons life. To such an extent that we loose focus on what actually is important to us and where our lives are going.
Now do not get me wrong I would be an absolute lair if I did not mention that in this area I have failed dramatically and I mean completely and utter failed in. Asperger's Syndrome could have a part to play in that...possibly but at the same time not really, because by being on my own for so long, I have become fully aware of the benefits of learning to love oneself, there by knowing my self and what it is I am actually looking for.
Love Blinds...is an old saying and I am afraid it is true, we as human beings are longing to feel a connection with someone with whom we are attracted to, and yes love is not always skin deep. However there are people out there who will do what they can in order to manipulate people who are actively looking for love....this is perhaps one of if not the biggest mistakes someone can and will ever make as regards to their personal lives.
There are more services than ever all promising to find you, your ideal match and that you will ride off into the sunset arm in arm and live happily ever after....does it happen yes it has done and it will doubtless continue to do so.
However this Traveller feels that as real as it may seem to be, its also highly artificial and is far too much like shopping online or in a shop on the high street. Having seen people fall in love an get married over the Second Life video game and World of Warcraft...I mean SERIOUSLY....yes love is found in the strangest of places...but in an online video game..where everything is as false and people act their lives as a character which is not really who they truly are.
I have gotten off topic...not for the first time or doubtless the last time, but it really is the old saying life and love are two funny things. They surprise you and find you when you least expect it. In fact so long as you are living your life and meeting different people continuously you never know who you will meet next.
This is an attitude I developed after not only my first heart break but the many near and frustrating misses I have had since.
What I have learned from being alone is very simple first of all jealousy very quickly sets in and is hard to combat.
The question that this traveller seeks to set out is this...Is it better to go through live going from relationship to relationship, or is it better to learn how to live with oneself first?
The very reason why I have chosen to pose this question is that I am sure many of you have seen, close and dear friends and family members go through relationships which have been unhealthy for them. The desire for a close emotional and physical relationship can at times be overwhelming, leading us to become over involved in the other persons life. To such an extent that we loose focus on what actually is important to us and where our lives are going.
Now do not get me wrong I would be an absolute lair if I did not mention that in this area I have failed dramatically and I mean completely and utter failed in. Asperger's Syndrome could have a part to play in that...possibly but at the same time not really, because by being on my own for so long, I have become fully aware of the benefits of learning to love oneself, there by knowing my self and what it is I am actually looking for.
Love Blinds...is an old saying and I am afraid it is true, we as human beings are longing to feel a connection with someone with whom we are attracted to, and yes love is not always skin deep. However there are people out there who will do what they can in order to manipulate people who are actively looking for love....this is perhaps one of if not the biggest mistakes someone can and will ever make as regards to their personal lives.
There are more services than ever all promising to find you, your ideal match and that you will ride off into the sunset arm in arm and live happily ever after....does it happen yes it has done and it will doubtless continue to do so.
However this Traveller feels that as real as it may seem to be, its also highly artificial and is far too much like shopping online or in a shop on the high street. Having seen people fall in love an get married over the Second Life video game and World of Warcraft...I mean SERIOUSLY....yes love is found in the strangest of places...but in an online video game..where everything is as false and people act their lives as a character which is not really who they truly are.
I have gotten off topic...not for the first time or doubtless the last time, but it really is the old saying life and love are two funny things. They surprise you and find you when you least expect it. In fact so long as you are living your life and meeting different people continuously you never know who you will meet next.
This is an attitude I developed after not only my first heart break but the many near and frustrating misses I have had since.
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