A Gentleman Traveller

It wasn't u n til recently I had fooled myself into believing that I had my Aspergers under control, it wasn't until this weekend when I realised just HOW wrong I was. Recently, this Gentleman Traveller had met someone and for the first time in many, many years the better part of a decade in fact. Having been alone for the better part of over a decade, this time as been spent as a mixture of learning to love my self. So, in doing this I have gotten so used to being alone and having the company of friends, but also being able to shut myself away from the world. Often doing so at a moment’s notice and with a seconds forethought, it is because I needed it or just because I wanted to hide away and just because I could...in fact more often than not, I have to thank my friends from University for not allowing me to do so (these people I will write about in a separate entry). These amazing and fantastic people did what only true friends can do....not let me get away with SHI...

Many of us this Gentleman included are terrified of being left without a significant other. However this fear can drive us to align our selves to those that can be detrimental to us. Having been unattached for the past ten years or so I have lived as an observer. Many times the term "third wheel" has been attached to this out spoken observer. What I have learned from being alone is very simple first of all jealousy very quickly sets in and is hard to combat. The question that this traveller seeks to set out is this...Is it better to go through live going from relationship to relationship, or is it better to learn how to live with oneself first? The very reason why I have chosen to pose this question is that I am sure many of you have seen, close and dear friends and family members go through relationships which have been unhealthy for them. The desire for a close emotional and physical relationship can at times be overwhelming, leading us to become over involved in the ...